The impact of the Second Dynamic upon our lives cannot be understated! We live in a very confusing world! Families in today’s modern world look much different from the way they did just a generation or two ago.
The ideal scene of mom, dad, and two or three children living happily down the street in the house with the white picket fence with climbing roses is not generally the scene today. It is a very confusing time for children and parents alike compared to 50 years ago – Divorce, single parenting, stress of earning a living etc. all impacts heavily on the Second Dynamic.
LRH has always considered communication to be a vital part of the Second Dynamic.
“Communication is the root of marital success from which a strong union can grow and non-communication is the rock on which the ship will bash a keel. LRH ”NEW SLANT ON LIFE – Page 149
And …
The Second Dynamic is man’s urge toward survival as a future generation.
Through sex he creates other individuals, expressing through children the urge to survive. Past therapies and philosophies dealt exclusively with the Second Dynamic, attributing every motive man had solely to sex. These philosophies and therapies decayed with the passage of time. Because they attributed all evil to sex and declared sex to be evil, their proponents did not procreate and so are not with us anymore. All Possible Aberrations – From a Lecture by L. Ron Hubbard September 1951 – Vol I – Page 158
The pressures of modern times can make living together as a married couple extremely difficult. However it is vital for the sane growth of the children and future generations. The following stats give some indication of the problems being faced…
National statistics indicate that 25% of children under age 18 are living in families with only one parent (Forum on Child and Family Statistics, 2006). In most circumstances, the missing parent is the father. Single-parent families headed by mothers are far more likely to be living at or below the poverty level than two-parent families. It is estimated that approximately 40% of all single-parent families headed by women are poor, compared to only about 8% of two-parent families (Annie E. Casey Foundation, 2006).
MARRIAGE: The willingness to take responsibility for somebody other than yourself is at the root of every successful marriage. Page 227
You want to know why somebody is failing consistently in his marriage …why somebody is failing consistently on the job… (p 229) … why somebody is a bit antisocial, he can’t get along with people. … why somebody doesn’t organise a group or carry it along … It’s because he will not take responsibility for others than himself.
Page 228 L Ron Hubbard – ABILITY CONGRESS – Lecture 7 – RESPONSIBILITY – HOW TO CREATE A THIRD DYNAMIC
As Auditors, and generally assisting people with Scientology, how often has a 2D situation had to be handled? But that is what we are here for is it not, and as is so often said … “Something can be done about it!” (Using Scientology Tech).
MARITAL PROBLEMS: If you have ever done any patch-ups of this sort of thing where it has all gone to pieces, and taken the wife and the husband, … and gotten them to get off some of their overts, you would be fascinated at the lack of actual viciousness contained in those overts. … They were upset because they couldn’t help the other one. … because they thought they hadn’t ‘done the other one right’…. because their plans to further longevity had gone astray.
… They started to pile up overts right after they decided it didn’t matter because it couldn’t go on, … But it was basically something that they couldn’t help each other with. … you can trace nearly all those marital arguments back to that kind of thing.
They now hate each other because they loved each other too well and failed to express it adequately to each other, you see.
Now this… is …a problem. … postulate-counter postulate. And at the moment when this condition of agreement – kept together with a little bit of natter and communication … you really get a head on collision.
This is a decision to do … a decision not to do, or a decision to do something else and a decision to do something else… a collision … Crash! And if those are of equal magnitude … that thing will hang in time and space. Because nothing disturbs the balance.
Now they have a problem and that problem now moves on the time track. That is a real problem. Neither one of them thinks up the wonderful argument that will resolve the problem, …and you’d have some reasonability about it. But neither one of them gives up. A *Pershing tank has run head-on into a Pershing tank. Clank!
* The tank was named after General of the Armies John J. Pershing, who led the American Expeditionary Force in Europe in World War I. It was briefly used in the final months of World War II during the Invasion of Germany and extensively during the Korean War.
And no matter how much forward tread motion you put on these two tanks, they don’t move at all. And you get the illusion of time not going forward at all because this location, of course , is unaltered …
No matter how much force you put into it, … There is no alteration of opinion … circumstances or conditions. … a result that looks like it’s for ever … no change…. No time … postulate-counter postulate adds up to no change, no hope of change.
… They’re just convinced, and to some degree they make sure the other one doesn’t change his mind because they tell each other often that they don’t.
L Ron Hubbard – Band 6 – Pages 114-117 CLEAN HANDS CONGRESS – Lecture 4 – THE GOALS PROBLEM MASS
Heck there is nothing better than a good wife. I met her through Scientology and we have now been married for some 55 years. We both became Auditors in the very early sixties and what we learnt has stood us in good stead ever since. Scientology was meant to be used to build relationships never to tear families apart as has happened under those ruling the church since Ron’s death.
I totally agree with all you have said, Oldtimer.
I also have travelled a similar path where I met my husband many years ago and he refused to marry me unless I became a trained auditor. A steep[ gradient indeed to start off with … but as a result of his determination, I persevered and we both became firmly trained Scientologists. I know we would not be married today if we had nor followed that path, because the game of ‘Marriage’ is not an easy one, and the various inevitable hurdles we faced as we travelled through the years have only been solved through our understanding and application of the tech. Together we have climbed up through the training route and together we are still growing as we climb up the upper OT Levels in our 58th year of marriage. He is still my invaluable partner.
Wow John Dale! That’s an invaluable quote you’ve given us!!
“you know Scientology … feel very free to use or not use exactly what you know, to use it as you think it ought to be used, to create the effect you want to create or just to create a random effect.”
We have actually become so stilted in our use of Scientology through all the years of intense indoctrination from the Church that we have become reticent to open our mouths with a piece of verbal data for fear of severe ethics penalties being imposed on us
This is amazing tech that LRH gave us, and we should all be adapting it to situations and activities that we are involved in all the time throughout life and now we see that Ron gave us his blessing to do just that way back in 1955!!
“That’s a wide license, isn’t it? The material is yours. Go ahead and take it.”
This is a wonderful article, thank you!